Escalating Violence in Children Could be Deadly
It’s a serious concern for the society.
Violence of all types – domestic or sexual – is inherently harmful. Violence against children is the most damaging of all. It is escalating at an alarming rate. What’s worse is that it’s a global phenomenon.
This issue needs to be taken seriously. Most parents do the opposite. They tend to have a dismissive nature, sometimes they are perpetrators themselves. Some parents justify violence citing unruly behavior of their children, forgetting they are in the adolescence age and the hormonal changes may be responsible for this kind of behaviour.
Psychologists agree that violence and abuse at early stages of development can be fatal both short-term and long-term. Aggressive behaviour causes both physical and emotional harm to them which never goes away.
The stage for the integration of habits – whether they are good or bad – is childhood. It is the stage in life when one begins to learn things by himself. If violence is inflicted on children, they’ll learn it and perceive it as natural for the rest of their lives. In other words, violence will be incorporated in them. It could be deadly later on.
Some of the consequences of escalating violence in children could be harmful to personal property, loss of potential relationships, violation of social boundaries, and deterioration of physical or mental health and in severe cases it can lead to injuries, bloodshed or even murder due to loss of self-control and apathy towards compassion.
Aggression in children is common nowadays. In severe cases, it can lead to heavy damage. Parents are strictly forbidden to behave aggressively in front of their children and remember that prevention is better than cure.
As a parent you must realize that violence and abuse can disrupt your child’s creative growth. So, stop them from experiencing violence. If your child has experienced it, take him to therapy and make sure to avoid further escalation of violence against him.
Violent behavior types and incidents children are often subject to include:
- Display of physical aggression and intense anger
- Regular engagement in fighting
- Use of weapons
- Cruelty towards people and animals
- Extreme irritability
- Intentional destruction of different items or property
- Unusual tantrums and frequent loss of temper
- Threats to hurt others
- Thoughts of killing people for petty reasons
Violent behaviour is not always intentional. Some people are short-tempered, they get angry easily. Other times, it’s a combination of multiple factors involving the following:
- The perpetrator of violence himself had been the victim of violence at home or outside, probably when he was a child
- Bullied by others in school
- Victim of physical abuse
- Genetic factors
- Stressful family environment due to socioeconomic factors
- Use of drugs or alcohol regularly
Nowadays children are isolated from their parents due to various reasons like education, mostly both the parents are working, parenting disputes, poverty etc giving them numerous reasons to take the wrong path like usage of drugs, verbal violence, incivility, murder etc. Here are some of the ways you can prevent escalation of violence against your child.
- Monitor your child and his actions like his internet history, friends group etc
- Early identification of violence signs mentioned above
- Give them consistent love and attention – every child deserves to be loved and taken care of. They feel safe and secure if they are under constant supervision of their parents.
- Remember parents are the first teachers – they idealize you for everything. So set examples of how you want your child to be.
- Set rules and discipline in the house – make some firm rules for the members of your family including you and stick to them. It will teach good habits to your child.
- Remove violence from the house – stressful situation in the house can also lead to the development of violence in children. Make your home a non-violent place.
- Restrict the timing and type of media consumption – limit the timings for watching television and also monitor the kind of shows and movies they watch.
Violence is one of the biggest issues in our society nowadays. We collectively need to deal with it. If any sign of violence is found in the child, it is the moral duty of teachers, parents and other relatives to deal with it in an appropriate way.
All parents should remember that they have a duty to assure their children are physically and mentally healthy. Accept their children the way they are, don’t pressurize them to excel in academics which can lead to them feeling victimized. Say no to violence. Support your children and incorporate good leadership qualities in them to resist violence.